- Before Lucille Ball became famous for “I Love Lucy”, she was dismissed from drama school for being too quiet and shy.
- Albert Einstein did poorly in elementary school and failed his first college entrance exam.
- Henry Ford went broke five times before achieving success.
- Clint Eastwood was once told by a University Pictures executive that his future as an actor was not promising. The man said, “You have a chip on your tooth, your Adam’s apple sticks out too far, and you talk too slow.”
How about you? The question isn’t whether we will fail…we all do. The challenge is to examine the failure, learn from it and move on. Can you do that? Do you do that? If we will start viewing our failures as opportunities, I am certain that we will be able to look back some day and realize that we needed those failures to guide us, force us to re-prioritize our values, assess our strong points and move ahead.
Laying the groundwork
Not everyone turns failures into opportunities. Why? It is quite possible that they don’t delineate the differences between their careers and the rest of their lives. If we define success only by how well our careers go, we are putting all of our eggs in that one basket. However, by seeding success in several areas of our lives, we are conditioning ourselves for career successes even when failures happen. Think “diversification” as you invest some great seeds into your personal life. Here are some examples:
Marriage.
Block out together time in your schedules. Plan and keep dates. Say, “I love you.”
Emotional.
When circumstances or people hurt you, allow yourself to experience the emotions instead of internalizing them. Be quick to ask for forgiveness and anxious to grant forgiveness.
Physical.
No surprises here: eat healthy food and exercise.
Personal Finance.
Whatever your financial status, don’t settle for it. Always be working on and executing a plan to create financial peace.
Spiritual Growth.
Spend time every day in prayer and Bible reading. Keeping a close relationship with the Maker of the Universe will keep failures in their proper perspective.
How do I turn this failure into success?
Change your language
Say Opportunity instead of Failure.
Learn.
This is like an autopsy…you are examining the failure to see exactly why it failed. The oft quoted story is that Thomas Edison, after trying thousands of experiments to refine the incandescent light bulb, was asked by a young reporter, “Mr. Edison, how does it feel to have failed 5000 times?” Edison answered, “Young man, I haven’t failed 5000 times. I have discovered 5000 techniques that don’t work.” If you learn what not to do, next time you will not repeat that mistake.
Don’t be afraid of another failure.
Fear of failure will paralyze you. But realizing that failure is a passageway to success will squelch that fear and motivate you to try again. Mickey Rooney said, “You always pass failure on the way to success.’
Continue to dream.
When your dreams stop, your life loses its purpose. God gives you dreams for a reason: he wants them to come true. Joseph of old had dreams that he would some day rise to prominence. Before he became Prime Minister of Egypt, he was thrown into a cistern, sold into slavery, arrested and imprisoned for a crime he didn’t commit and lied to by those who could help him. It took 22 years, but God worked through all these seeming detours to fulfill that dream. God has not forgotten your dreams and you shouldn’t either.
Pray
God’s plan for his son Jesus was to allow him to be executed for a crime he did not commit. For some, this would seem like a failure, but of course the death of Jesus was followed by a resurrection, and his resurrection is our promise of eternal life. This same God wants to hear your prayers and “resurrect” your failures into amazing successes.
Concluding thoughts
We all fail. How we deal with the failure will determine our life course. The challenge is to see the failure as an opportunity. If you can learn from the failure, squelch your fear of trying again, and continue to dream and pray, you will have come far on this journey of life: you will discover yourself.
A closing quote from Pope John XXIII: “Consult not your fears, but your hopes and dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.”
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Joe,
I’m a Cards fan, too! I needed the encouragement this article provided – thanks!
Not only does your advice apply to failures that have already happened, it applies to situations that are not yet finished, too. While something is going wrong, it is good to look at the crisis as an opportunity to turn things around.
Have you ever read the book QBQ? I think there is a review of it on this site.. It’s been a while since I read it, but it had a similar theme. Might have to check it out again.
Nice. Even the best fail sometimes, which can be encouraging. To add, here’s a quote from Michael Jordan:
“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. “
Great insight Joe,
They say “Once Beaten, Twice Shy” and your post is a call to totally disregard this notion and step out in faith.
Good points. Examining failures is key. I like your suggestion call failure opportunity.
@Justin,
Fellow Card fan! We know a bit about failure.
I appreciate your thought of “catching” the crisis before it gets worse. Great idea.
I know about the book QBQ but haven’t read it…yet. I have read the follow up “Flipping the Switch” by John Miller.
@Darren,
Thanks for the Micheal Jordon quote. Puts failure in a new perspective.
@Joseph,
I was not familiar with “Once beaten, Twice shy”, but you are right: it is a good one to disregard and move on in faith.
@Ken,
Right. If we can have the courage to examine those failures instead of wimping out with a pity party, we can indeed discover opportunities. Thanks for stopping by.
At my last job, a few people were fired at the drop of a hat. Really surprising. So I was paralyzed with a huge fear of failure. I am finally overcoming that fear a year later. Thanks for the tips
I’m not understanding the difference between “experiencing emotions” and “internalizing hurt”–help me out?
Thanks for the encouragement and for putting failure in it’s proper perspective. Sometimes I need that kind of support to help me continue in the right direction.
@Jessica,
Sorry for the TARDY response! I just now read your comment. When I say “experiencing emotions”, I mean that one recognizes the emotion, identifies it and deals with it. I can’t deal with anger, for example, unless I allow it to surface and realize that I am feeling angry. “Internalizing hurt” means stuffing the emotion into your psyche without ever processing it. Doing so is a recipe for trouble, because that emotion doesn’t go away; it lays dormant until it decides to surface. At that point, the emotion is controlling you.
Experiencing the emotion is healthy. Internalizing it isn’t. I hope this explanation helps.
@Joanne,
I am glad that this post encouraged you. We all fail. I wish you the best as you continue in the right direction.
Respected Mr Joe Plemon
Thanks for this message , It’s really uplift me from failure , and keep more nearer to God , our heavenly Father . Once again thanks . Keep me in your daily prayer so that my failure can change in sucess .
Yours in Christ.
Susobhan,
All things are possible with Christ. Whatever failures you have had will be stepping stones toward success when your trust is in God. I will pray for you!
Dear Brother In Christ
Thanks for your support .